When was the last time you sat down with some one face-to-face, one-on-one, with no other good purpose than simply to get to know them (better)? It’s amazing what you learn. By doing so, I have learned things I may have never known.
Learning these new things has enhanced my life. I have come to appreciate different perspectives. In a world of Bing and Google, I have come to new knowledge without looking at a computer screen. I have learned that wisdom, connections, and creativity come from the depths of flesh and blood.
In one day I sat with three completely different people:
- A person going through a major difficulty in life told me that he has learned that what is even more difficult is to see others who have no faith and no church. What perspective was brought from an unfortunate situation.
- A pastor from a different denomination taught me the finer points of church polity and offered unexpected encouragement that was really needed. A helpful introduction to someone else is also going to come about as the result of our face-to-face meeting.
- A person who deals with central city children each and every day taught me once again about homes and situations that I can only imagine…and hope to change.
In a fast-paced, technologically-driven world, we far too often pass up or fly right by face-to-face, one-on-one meetings. It’s a shame. There is much to be missed. There is much to be learned. There is much wisdom to be gained. There is much creativity to be sparked. There are many connections to be made.
I challenge you to sit down today, face-to-face, one-on-one, with another person…even if it’s only for fifteen minutes.
- Ask probing and specific questions.
- Avoid “yes or no” questions.
- Explore something about the person you had never known before.
- Keep your mouth closed for a while and simply listen.
- Put yourself in the other person’s seat.
- Try to discover one new thing about the person herself or himself.
- Try to discover one new thing you can learn from the person.
- Following the meeting, discern the creative spark that was lit as a result of the face-to-face.
What have you learned from having a face-to-face, one-on-one conversation?